Hey, Scoliosis Sisters!
Are you spending your days and nights feeling burnt out and overwhelmed? Too tired to stick to a routine much less do the things you love? Not as perky as you would like to be?
Yeah, me too.
I’ve seen all these Pins and articles about how self-care is “literally a life changer” and then go into how, basically vanity and stereotypical girl things somehow equate to self-care.
“Take a bubble bath!”
“Have a 10 step skin-care routine!”
“Clean your kitchen every night!”
Trying these out made me even more exhausted. Why? Because self-care is personal and only you can figure out what that means for you.
Personally, I hate bubble baths because the tub hurts my back to sit in. Plus, there’s something about sitting in my own filth that doesn’t appeal to me.
I also hate showers. I am terrified of being alone in the bathroom in the shower due to past tramas.
I can’t exactly avoid washing myself, so it’s been pretty tough to power through. I hate confessing this, but sometimes because of fear, I would only shower every other day and use wipes and dry shampoo between.
I was letting fear get to me and negativity affect my health. For example, my face would break out more because it wasn’t getting a good washing.
What the heck does this have to do with self-care?
Hygiene. It’s essential. So, I schedule in my shower with a 15 min. max time, so I try to beat the clock and make it a fun game. This distracts me from my fears. I also listen to audio books or music to help me not feel so alone. If I am having a really hard time, I’ll ask Darrel to come stand in there with me.
I noticed a deficit in my needs and came up with a plan (and a contingency plan because there is trauma involved) to help me fulfill a need.
That’s what self-care is all about. Being an advocate for yourself by noticing where you need help or where you are lacking.
Think of it as being a parent of yourself, which is kind of true. They no longer have any kind of authority in that way, so you must monitor yourself and not solely rely on others to tell you that you need to shower everyday.
So, how do we recognize our needs?
Let’s consult out buddy Maslow.
Just like the food pyramid, we start at the bottom with the most important and crucial needs. Physiological needs are the most basic things we need in order to survive, such as eating enough food, staying hydrated, sleeping the appropriate amount of time, and being in a home with a bed.
Many of us reading this, probably have accessibility to all of these. However, other psychological factors and lack of knowledge can come into play here.
If someone has an eating disorder, their need for food is not being met.
If someone drinks nothing but sugary, caffeinated drinks all day and maybe a glass of water, their hydration need is not being met.
An example of ignorance about self-care would be my own sleep schedule! My new therapist (hey, girl) had to teach me about “sleep hygiene”, which is all about getting enough good quality sleep at consistent times. I now have a bedtime and night routine for pretty much the first time in my life!
It’s only been about 3 weeks and I am still getting used to the change, but I feel my energy levels balancing out.
Take a moment to think of what you could be lacking in each category of needs. Jot down a few notes and save them for later.
So now that we know how to recognize needs, let’s go over how we can create a self-care routine to hit all of those.
Over the next few weeks, we will be diving deeper into this. I have even made you all a 7 day Self-Care Plan! We can follow it together and see what a difference it makes! Comment “I’m in” below, so we can encourage each other and grow together! Get your freebie here!
1.) Finding Time
I like to do most of my self-care at night because I won’t have as many distractions. But, that’s just me.
You might be a morning person and want to tackle it all first thing.
You might be a crazy busy person who needs to squeeze in 5 minutes here and there.
There are so many options for finding a time and dedicating yourself to it.
One option might be creating a cute bullet journal page of your routine, so you don’t forget! Art can be self-care, so it’s kind of a two-for-one if you think about it.
Currently, I am using an app that times me and I get to check off a task and beat a clock to stay on track. It’s very helpful for those lazy days!
2.) Being Consistant
Figure out what you can handle doing everyday. Daily things might consist of tidying up for a few minutes, flossing your teeth, drinking 8 cups of water, reading a Bible verse, and going to bed by 10pm.
Then, what bigger tasks you can do weekly and monthly.
Some weekly tasks in my house would be like changing the bed linens, mopping the floors, ordering groceries, and doing a facial. You can look around on Pinterest and find tons of cleaning schedules that are already made and delegate tasks on certain days. You can also take a look at my 15/15 method for keeping a clean home with scoliosis!
Monthly (or every few months) tasks might be de-cluttering, getting a pedicure, and getting a massage.
Again, it’s all up to you, what you like, and what you need.
3.) Don’t Overwhelm Yourself
Self-care isn’t about getting stressed out and trying to do it perfectly. It’s about recognizing that you are a human with needs.
Start off with small changes by only having a couple things you need to do in a day. Every few days or so, build up by adding a task or increasing the time of a task. When I first started on my self-care journey, I downloaded a habit tracker app and locked it on my tabs, so it is always up reminding me of what I have ahead of me.
You can also make a super cute bullet journal page for this too!
4.) Cover All Your Needs
Another way to break needs down is to categorize them by Body, Mind, and Soul.
Body – Healthy eating, hygiene, sleep schedule, etc.
Mind – Journaling, therapy, self-development books, etc.
Soul – Doing a Bible Study, meeting up with good friends, eating good food, etc.
5.) 7 Day Challenge
Let’s do it together!
In my 7 Day Self-Care Plan, I have a little sample of different activities each day to show you how to dip your toe in the waters of self-care. Explore what you like and what you don’t like! We can follow it together and see what a difference it makes! Comment “I’m in” below, so we can encourage each other and grow together!
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